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There will always be that person

03 Wednesday Jul 2013

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In life, there will always be that person. That person who was once your “friend/acquaintance”. That person who you tried not to judge, not to gossip about, or cause any harm to.

But little did you know, that was very much one-sided. You realised, that the person was in fact, judging you and saying untrue things. Of course, you will try not to care. But how long would the ‘try-not-to-care’ last?

Mine lasted almost 6 months. Quite a short length of time frankly speaking. But if you were in my position, I know you’d do the same. Because the person was always in my way in every single thing and every single step I took to move forward.

Now, it has been almost 3 years since I try to ignore the existence of the person. But again, you know, there will always be that person… who doesn’t understand that you are staying away from him/her and you hope that they would do the same. Keep some distance, is all I ever ask.

But then what? There is always that person who will just never understand and try to be in your way. No matter how hard you try to erase them out of your life….

What’s worse? Is when that person, purposely tries to disturbs your life through your significant other (best friend/boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever), because they know that it would definitely effect you.

For once, now, I am putting a stop to this. It may sound rude, but our lives will never move forward, if we never erase that person completely out of our lives. Of course, I’m sure, somewhere along the line, we’ll meet someone else who is like that.

But we’ve at least learned out lesson that we will keep distance from the start. That we will erase them completely before it’s too late.

I am now going to delete everything and even everyone who will somehow connect me to that person.

You were never good for me. If anything, you only add problems to my life.

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The Difference Between ‘Trying’ and ‘Doing’

26 Wednesday Jun 2013

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I remember days when I was crushed when I found out that I fail. Failing is a scary word. It’s a word that none of us wants to hear.

I always say to myself, to everyone “But I put so much effort in it. I have tried so hard.” I never understand how the world works before.

But now, I do. Of course, many of us knows that there is a beauty in failing. That’s not new, is it? But what’s new to me is that I failed because I tried and I didn’t do.

What’s the difference, really? Well, an analogy that I’d like to use to describe my thought is:

Scientists ‘do’ an experiment, whether the result agrees or disagrees with their hypothesis. But they got a result. A valid result that they could learn from. But a scientist who ‘tries’ to do an experiment would not have results to prove their hypothesis. 

Why?

Because a scientists who tried only tried. That scientist never really finished the experiment. Hence it failed. 

Both situations could lead to failing. But one is the type that we could learn from and another is a type that leads us to wonder why we failed. The second one would not make us better because we’ll keep thinking that we were right.

 

So this is a piece of my mind and thoughts today. I hope this finds you all well.

Let’s start doing and stop trying. Because our efforts will only be acknowledged when we get results. Don’t consider yourself successful until you get results (even though the results are not as positive). But success is when we have something to learn from, success is not when we did not finish doing something.

 

Good luck!

With love,

Shannen ❤

The Universe & Its’ Wonders

06 Thursday Jun 2013

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A lot of the time, I fail to understand the way things work in this universe.

A lot of the time, I fail to see the ‘simple logic’ behind things in this universe.

But today finally, I think the universe is wonderful. Not because everything is perfect but because it has its’ wonders and it works its’ magic.

The universe is wonderful. So is God.

Lately, I’ve been seeing the pattern. Pattern of how things work in this universe.

I’m beginning to think it’s wonderful. I see, that every single time I’m beginning to soar, I always find something that would keep me back down. Not back down totally, but, more like ‘decreasing the speed’.

I used to think that it is the ‘unjust’ part of life. Perhaps, you should begin to look at it in a positive point of view.

I realised, it is not to hinder me from soaring…… But it’s to keep me down to earth. It does not let me soar too fast nor too far. In fact, It teaches me the value of my work, the value of the results I received.

The universe is wonderful and yet we don’t appreciate it enough.

Random thoughts on a random Thursday

23 Thursday May 2013

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There are moments when I feel like I want to give up or stop doing what I enjoyed doing. Sometimes, I question myself: “what am I good at? What are my talents?”

I’m sure I’m not alone. I have many friends who are suffering from the same problem too. Often times, we feel like we haven’t discovered ourself enough to actually know what our talents are. Which I agree, I say this ALL the time before.

But today, on a random thursday, I finally think that maybe it’s not that. Maybe I have discovered my talents and maybe so have you all. Maybe my talents are the things I enjoy doing and was once good at it. Why “was”? Because I stopped. Like many other people, I have the tendency to stop doing what I enjoy for many reasons: ‘busy’, not enough time, found another ‘more interesting’ hobby, or even not getting enough acknowledgement.

Perhaps the problem is not that I haven’t explored myself enough. But in fact, it’s because I tried too many things in short amount of time. So I didn’t give myself the opportunity to go in-depth. Maybe that’s the problem for most of you too.

I really enjoy writing, speaking, and makeup, as you all might know. But I do get intimidated at times and I do feel like I want to stop. For me though, I tend to pick myself back up, whether it’s sooner or later. Even though the cycle keep repeating itself but I do realise that I tend to pick myself back again.

Is it unusual? It may sound unusual to most people. It may sound different to most people. There are no secrets to achieving this. The key is, appreciate the little things. I always appreciate every little things that I find related to my hobby. Say, if I stop writing about my makeup tips because I feel like I’m not good enough and there are many better gurus out there (which is true). Then if one day I go out and someone compliments me on my looks. That would lift me back up. It could even be something as small as looking at old photos and realising how much fun I had doing it.

Truth is, never stop or second guess yourself at what you enjoy doing. Maybe you’re not the best now but nothing comes instantly. I suggest, rather than trying to explore yourself too much. Focus on one or two activities. Look back and think what you enjoyed before and do it again.

I, like many of you, believe that talent is a gift from God that we have to discover. But I bet, Mariah Carey didn’t discover her talent in singing just by singing along to a radio when she could start speaking. Someone probably saw the potential and trained it well so she could that there.

It’s the potential and a lot of training that bring you far.

Ahhh, don’t you just love your super random thoughts after work? Sometimes, the beauty of draining your brain is that you don’t over-think anymore. Because you don’t have the energy to think about the ‘what ifs’. Instead, you think of something more simple which could be better, healthier, and makes you happier.

Shannen ❤

The Power of Money

12 Sunday May 2013

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“Give a man money and the power to control, you’ll see the true colours of that man”

Have you ever feel that the person you know become the person you knew?

Have you ever had the experience that you think you know somebody but you apparently don’t?

Growing up, I know that money is such a big matter in this world. But who knew that now, I would still be one of those people questioning “Why does money change a lot of people?”

One might argue that money could get you everything, which I agree. However, what one doesn’t know is that the power of money is stronger than getting what you want…. It changes how a person behaves.

I have seen this as I was growing up and little did I know that I would experience it too right now. It’s painful seeing people change for what they own. We should worth more than what we own, more than what we have.

I understand that this is a very sensitive subject. And I do reckon that most people would probably tell me that money could change myself too. What I’m saying is, I know money does make us feel more empowered. Make us feel that we could conquer the world. BUT, I think it’s disgusting to see when people starting to change who they befriend with, how they present themselves (to a certain extent it’s okay), and how they view other people.

I couldn’t help to be disgusted by people who thinks that nobody else is good enough for them. Thinking that they could get anything, always achieving more.

Always remember that “we could never have everything”, God would not give it too easy for us. I experience this myself, for once I felt like I had it all… Then before i know it, one of the most precious thing I had was taken away from me. I guess it’s fine because I had all the other things I wanted too but if I could choose sometimes, I’d rather choose the other two things that I could lose than that. But in the end, God knows what’s best for us, right?

Well, this is very blabbery and I feel like I’m going off topic. But the point is, we have to give ourself a little reminder that even though we have what we have now, it will not stay forever… and most of the times, we don’t have control over to choose what we could lose.

Here is what I like to tell myself every time I feel that I’m beginning to go off track.. “Always remember to ask yourself: who you are? and where you come from?”. The key is to be humble and appreciate what you have right now.

It’s okay to be blown away once or twice. But always remember that when someone tells you off, it’s not to attack you, but the person cares enough to be the “whistleblower” of your life. I go off track too a lot of the times, but remember to always get back on track!

P.s: if you find a person who would always try to stay humble regardless of the power and money they own, that person is a keeper. Whether it’s a friend, best friend, close friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, whoever it is!

With love,

Shannen.